The wrong questions

I believe all people are created equally, this means I believe I am equal to the worst criminal sitting in a prison as well as Jesus, Plato, Aristotle, Budhha, The Queen, some random Mother born millennia ago who first told the story of Adam and Eve. We’ve just had different life experiences that’s all and the only reason I’m not a criminal in prison is because I have faith in myself and in others so have managed to lead an honest life. Until this year I also believed the authorities stood for the same things as me so I would be protected from the bad behaviour of others, but now I realise that isn’t so. It appears to me that the current authorities in England believe all people are inherently bad and to blame and deserving for any bad things that happen to them. I disagree. Vehemently!

Anyway, questions…

For centuries people have been asking how we were created and where is God and atheists have been poo pooing a whole religion as they don’t believe in a God on high. But just because God isn’t in outer space and we know about Darwin’s theory of evolution it doesn’t mean the Bible stories aren’t true.

Stop thinking literally and think metaphorically.

Stop trying to pick holes and show how clever you are and just accept there was a reason for the story to be included in the Bible and try to work out the lesson it is trying to teach. I haven’t read the whole Bible. I might do one day, but if you are a pedant I am sure you can find a story that is rubbish, contradictory to the main message of love and use that to dismiss the whole book. Don’t be such a teenager. Think a bit harder about why society at that time wanted to include that story. Extract the goodness from it, if there is no goodness in the story, dismiss that story, not the whole book.

What is Adam and Eve about? If you think back to when the story was created you can get a better understanding of why it endured.

Society was much simpler then. People would have lived in family groups with everyone knowing everyone. They would have taught their children about God as being the person the adults answer to in order to keep society equal and manage resources fairly. Then when the youngsters reach puberty and get a dose of hormones/energy, they would have been able to see that it is the grown ups who are actually in charge of resources and making things fair and that leads to them being tempted to go against the rules. After all, the only person they are answerable to is themselves. They would then have used their extra dose of hormones/energy to start building their own family, or wanting to explore and gain new knowledge of how things truly work. After having a few children the Mother would begin to learn from the children and understand why the rules they adhered to as a child were necessary and why belief in a God who was fair helps the children to believe in themselves. They would then be able to relax and let go a little as they teach their children to take responsibility for themselves so they can go back to feeling carefree again and regain their innocence.

So Adam and Eve were like innocent children having responsibility free and innocent fun, protected by God (parents). Eating from the tree of knowledge is what happens when they reach puberty and work out it is the adults who are actually responsible for creation (of children) and being fair and good. This sends them out of the Garden of Eden as responsibility makes things tougher – they are forced to grow up and cut the apron strings, realising the buck stops with them. There is nobody to blame if things go wrong but themselves.

Then Cain and Abel. What’s that all about? Sibling rivalry of course and the fact that parents aren’t perfect and they have their own likes and dislikes and you should aim to use your unique talents to please yourself, not your parents. God just happens to prefer sheep to the arable offerings of Cain (have I got that the right way round? I ought to check with a bible, but I’ll let you do that, or you can just go with the general gist), but Cain cares so deeply that his offering isn’t preferred that he kills his brother. Cain is then given the choice to conquer over sin. He has committed a terrible crime through jealousy, yet instead of being struck down he is still given the option to learn how to change his behaviour.

We haven’t changed biologically since Adam and Eve, Cain and Abel. Think about how cosseted and carefree you were as a child (assuming you had a happy childhood – I hope you did), now modern society is in teenage. We are stuck in the doing phase, striving for more knowledge, building our families, our homes, trying to work more hours to afford more stuff. We are still looking for ultimate approval, a validation for our lives so that we can reach a point where we can relax and just enjoy “being” again, like a child. But it is only when we stop “doing” and look around to see the only people we are accountable to is our children that we can relax.

Children don’t care what their parents do for a living, they don’t care if they are rich or poor providing they are safe and looked after. Our children accept us as we are. As people. As the human animal we have been trying not to be as we substitute status, money, knowledge, drugs, alcohol for the feeling we miss from childhood. The feeling is still there within us. We just have to slow down and allow ourselves to just “be”. Let go of all our hang ups and insecurities, our children can’t see them. Our children judge us by our actions towards them and others, the way we make them feel, not by what we say or how much stuff we give them. Acknowledge you have insecurities and hang ups and work out how to resolve them so you don’t pass them on. Take full responsibility for your life then begin to let go and relax and teach your children how to be responsible too – use my 2 rules, they are all you need.

So basically what I’m saying is, stop wondering about God. Accept that a Mother created God to help children learn how to take responsibility for themselves and live a fair and joyful life. God is relevant to us today as we still suffer the same failings as humans millennia ago – wanting to know too much, not enjoying responsibility, but also not enjoying being told what to do by mere mortals, jealousy, seeking approval.

We are no better emotionally, mentally or physically than the first people who walked the earth, we just think we are because our society is so complicated we’ve distanced ourselves from our humanity.

So stop questioning where, what, how God and begin to understand why.



I work as a storyteller, but spend most of my time as a Mother answering questions children have asked since the beginning of time. Mainly just one question actually. Why?

I’ve never stopped asking why, but I don’t think any of us really like definitive answers, they sort of ruin the possibilities, or our faith in what we were told when we were children. I was very lucky as a child to have been given common sense answers in a matter of fact manner about the really important questions, but was also taught about fairies and the supernatural and allowed to answer questions with my own imagination – I was told about nature, how systems worked, taxes etc, but most usefully about death (school eventually taught me the other things, but school doesn’t teach how to relate to other people and how to deal with death). My Mother has been preparing me for her death from an early age, but has also shown how to live in a structured, ordered fashion with enjoyment, honesty, integrity and nourishment of human relationships. It means when she does die I know she will be OK about it and that makes me feel OK about it, I’ll feel sad, but I will always have her in my heart, just as I have memories of her Mother in my heart even though she died before I was born. They will live eternally as I tell as much as I can remember to my children and them to theirs – heavenly!

We’ve stopped telling stories to our children from our memories, our faith and imaginations, we live in a literal age when reading stories to children is as much about teaching to read as it is about teaching through stories. We seem to want to give our children all the definitive facts that science has worked out for us and leave little to the imagination. The Bible used to be the book of stories that we retold and explained the wonders of nature and how society works, but now we know God isn’t up in the clouds and a lot of the stories in the Bible contradict the main message of christianity or break my 2 life rules, we dismiss the whole religion and mock anyone who has faith.

But that is just silly! It’s called chucking the baby out with the bathwater.

I was brought up as a christian and managed to listen to stories in church and sunday school relating them to myself and learning from the experiences of the characters in the stories. The faith that is taught in churches that I have been to is much more about being united as humans to be good and kind and less about finding some obscure passage in the Bible that is discriminatory or judgmental. Just because the Archbishop of Canterbury and the Pope blaspheme and make judgements it is not their place to make, doesn’t mean you should dismiss a whole religion that people have followed for centuries.

I’m not a complete naivete, I worked out when I was about 15 why God was invented. I remember thinking about war and what was going on in the world, Aids and the hole in the ozone. I thought if only there was one person in charge of the whole world who was fair and good so that inequalities between countries were made smaller and all the world did their best to be environmentally friendly and have knowledge of how to prevent the spread of disease. Ah,  that’s why they invented God!

Now I have a better understanding of the human soul through an experience when my soul died and I became a husk of a person, there in body, but not in spirit, I understand even better why God was invented and then reinvented by Jesus.

Humans have 3 parts, their physical self, emotional/spiritual self and the mental self. Belief in God helps us to develop as our true selves with a guilt free emotional/spiritual self which allows us to access the pure logic of a well ordered mental self.

I’ll explain better in a further post, but my point in this post is that we don’t need to know where God is, how he created the world, how he allows disasters to happen etc. We just need to think about why humans since the beginning of time in all cultures have created God.


So why is God a necessity?


What do we believe?

It seems to me that current society believes modern society is rational and reasonable as we only believe in what we can prove scientifically. We are better and cleverer than generations that have gone before.

We do what we like when we like and believe it is our right as individuals to do what pleases us and turn a blind eye to negative consequences if we believe society won’t judge us for our decision.

Does this make us happy?

Is it morally right?

We believe morals make people judgemental and we believe it is wrong to judge people as that is discrimination.

But are we missing something?

It is wrong to judge a human for their personality, their soul, their physical characteristics that make them unique and cannot be changed, but what about their behaviour? You cannot change your physical self, but you can change your behaviour.

I believe as a Mother that it is my duty to bring up children who behave well according to 2 simple rules. If my children stick to these rules they can be absolutely true to themselves whoever they might become.

My rules come from economic theory. They are rational and reasonable, but science would discount them as they rely on faith in the human spirit, something you cannot yet prove to exist scientifically.

Rule 1. The Pareto Criterion – You cannot make one person better off if it makes another person worse off unless you can compensate them. We are all of equal worth – all races, religions, ethnicities, sexes.

Rule 2. The Prisoner’s Dilemma (We are all prisoners in our own minds, in the prisoners dilemma the rational choice leads to the worst outcome, if everyone had faith and trust we would reach the best outcome) – Believe in yourself as a good kind human and have faith that others are good and kind too. If you behave well to others, people will behave well towards you. If someone is unkind to you, first look to yourself and see if your behaviour needs to change, but if you have done nothing to deserve unkindness, forgive the wrong and move forward without losing faith.

These rules are what I was brought up with. Not explicitly, through music, stories, culture, education, training, experience. I have managed to refine my whole being down to these 2 rules due to an experience when I was forced to question everything I know and believe to be true. 

I believe my rules have allowed me to live a good and happy life where I have pleased myself and followed my hearts desire, but without allowing society to corrupt me into denying any negative consequences. I feel resolved that my actions have not caused the pain or suffering of another and I do my best to live ethically and within my means. I carry no burden of guilt, just like a child. It is only through my recent experience that I have regained my innocence. It gives me inner peace and contentment and allows me to speak my mind and express my thoughts. So I won’t judge you as a person, but I will try to help you lead a better life by telling my story and teaching the lessons I have learnt.

We can all learn to be better people as judged by our children, children judge us by our actions, not by the justification we give to excuse bad behaviour.

What is bad behaviour?

Anything that breaks the rules – there are only 2 rules, how hard can it be?